Benefits of Therapy
Understand how therapy can help you in your day to day life.
Does this sound familiar?
You feel down and you don’t know why. So you just pretend like everything is OK.
Your heart is broken, but you need to show up for work, your children, your clients/customers/patients, your friend who needs you, so you hold it in and just get through the day. And the next day, and the next day…
You’ve experienced some significant event or trauma, but it happened in the past, and you think you should just get over it.
Your boundaries have been crossed and you feel taken advantage of. But you don’t feel it’s safe to speak up and you’re afraid you’ll be seen as an “angry bitch.”
You feel so on edge one day that you explode and rage on your partner because they didn’t pick up their socks.
You can’t stop crying and you don’t know why.
These are just some of the countless ways women disconnect from their feelings – and for good reason!
You are trying to keep your feelings from overwhelming you.
But the truth is, holding them all in is what will overwhelm you even more down the road.
With many of my clients, we often discuss the benefits of exploring and expressing emotion. It makes sense in their minds.
Intellectually you say, “Of course I have feelings, I’m human right?” But when it comes down to it, feeling your feelings can be harder than you think.
This is true for so many women.
Now as an adult, you have the opportunity to make choices, to develop skills, and to manage your emotions without needing to control them (hold them in or be overwhelmed by them).
So what’s the difference between controlling how you feel and managing your emotions? Trying to control how you feel is nearly impossible, because feeling is a natural process, like breathing and blinking.
Managing your emotions is being able to notice what feelings are coming up and not letting them overwhelm you or completely throw you off course.
Most women have been conditioned to be caretakers, to tend to the needs of others and put their own emotional needs on the back burner.
When you were a little girl, you may have been told you were “too much,” “too emotional,” “too dramatic,” or even that you were trying to use your emotions to “manipulate others.” You adapted in whatever way you could so that the people around you did not abandon you because you had feelings.
Feelings are also an ever changing process, meaning that what you feel will not, and does not have to, last forever.
The benefit of feelings your feelings? You actually feel better afterwards.
Your problem won’t be solved instantly, but that’s not the point.
You will feel relieved, calmer, more connected to yourself and your personal power, thus, you will be in a much better position to tackle whatever internal or external battle you’re facing.
